I sucked at emotion, sucked at explaining because I rambled, and hated how weak I was. When I finally broke the bubble of “this is how it is” and began to work on these things, they’ve become what I’m most proud of: emotional understanding, improvements on my thinking, my strength and athleticism.
Despite the cards that were dealt, I cared that the hand was weak, it was often insecurity. Not being as natural at something as others seemed to be, below the average. If you start average, if you’ve reached the Good enough plateau then you can afford to offload to System 1 and have no need to pay extra attention. But when you’re below average, and it bothers you and you can’t ignore it, you will pay more attention to this deficit than most other people will.
This deliberate attention on the skill often culminates (when we finally get to working on it) in a greater skill than most will care to get to. Then, it’s something we never want to look back on, something you tell yourself you will never be again. The maintenance and pride in this strength can often be greater than our natural strengths.
Ex. MJ with his dribbling. Tony hated math, wasn’t any good. Then got his masters in it.
Reference
Myself and observation from others.. any academic writing? (Dr. Becky Kennedy - We talk the most about the things we’re bad at.) Learning MOC Thinking Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman